You deserve to love yourself

You deserve to love yourself
My thoughts do not control me. I am always in control. Even when I was in such a panic state, it was the acknowledging and consciously changing my thoughts that helped me to eventually ground myself.
When I became mindful, I remembered that I’m not this anxiety and panic, they do not define me.
In fact, I am so much stronger because of all of this (even though at the time I really felt the opposite).
I am in control of my monkey mind.
I am in control of my self-care routines.
I am in control of accepting myself, my body, just as it is.
I am in control of loving myself.
But as much as in control I am, I am able to surrender to the only moment that matters, this one, right here, right now!
In this moment, I am always okay. I can always cope with the present moment. And so can you!
We can’t love our bodies if we don’t first learn to love ourselves. It means taking the control of those negative, destructive patterns/thoughts. Learning to be kind to ourselves, believe in ourselves and learning to cope with things in healthy ways rather than in destructive ways.
We all deserve to love ourselves. It doesn’t make us ‘big headed’ if we do!!! Anyone that ever tries to bring you down for accepting yourself, has their own issues (still not an excuse to be a dick), but we can just be understanding and not letting others affect how we feel.
If you are still reading this, I want you to say that you love yourself, actually say it, out loud! How does that make you feel? It’s a bit weird at first, right? You might not agree with it for a long time, but if you are able to just acknowledge how far you have come, what amazing things you have already accomplished, that actually you are a pretty cool person, that your mental health issues do not define you -you might just start slowly finding reasons to love yourself or at least be a little bit kinder to yourself.
That’s what I’m trying to do. And today, more than ever made me realise, that yes I still a long way to go with it.
But, I am so grateful for this body, the one I have right now!
My body is squishy and that’s OKAY!!
Six months ago I wouldn’t think I’d be able to post a picture like this for thousands of people to see. And y’know what? It feels fucking awesome!! Because I’m not ashamed of it anymore, I’m not trying to desperately change it. I’m just making peace and learning to love and accept it more and more every single day.
Remember, it’s all about the journey, not the destination.
You deserve to be loved and to love yourself!
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  1. Ki
    / 6:46 pm

    Thank you!!! I just opened my mail to try and distract myself from a meltdown. Sitting on my kitchen floor trying to read through the tears your post was my second email. I hate that you have been struggling and I wish I could take it away but it really helps to know I’m not alone. I’m going to go try and lay down but I can’t say what it meant to read this when I needed it most.

    • kayska1
      / 6:57 pm

      I’m so sorry you’ve also been struggling! I honestly constantly try to tell myself that every breakdown, meltdown only makes us so much stronger!
      It makes me so happy to know that this has helped you, even if it’s only a little bit.
      Please, remember, you really deserve love and the struggles with not last forever. You got this, I believe in you 👊🏻💕

  2. Megan white
    / 9:50 am

    Thank you for this! I’m currently really struggling with body image issues and today just feels so overwhelming.reqding this showed me there’s light at the end of the tunnel, I made a YouTube video about it and it was the hardest one ever but I wanted to teach people the obsessive side to a eating stuggle. Thank you for writing this ! Xxx

  3. Megan white
    / 9:51 am

    Thank you for writing this! I’m currently going through some body image struggles and it’s very overwhelming today, it’s hard to open up . I made a YouTube video about it on my channel and the support is amazing but it’s still so hard. Thank you for opening up and helping people

  4. / 6:09 pm

    Very difficult for me to absorb the ideas here, about self-care. For me, self-care has become a campaign to care for others, and to feel enriched/rewarded that way. My daughters. My parents. My cats. My students. They often get my focus even when I can’t focus. Sometimes (usually) when I can’t even get off the bed or get out of the house, I do anyway to meet their needs. But I seldom do so to meet my own needs. Unless it’s coffee. I can always get off the bed for coffee. Go figure.

    • / 10:53 am

      I discovered that is called co-dependency. There is an organisation called CodA which helps people who have these kind of issues. It can be found on Facebook and there are YouTube videos to be found by therapists about it.

      I am a born again Christian and I know that God expects us to take care of ourselves first. We need to care for ourselves in order to have the strength to look after our jobs, homes, family etc.

  5. / 9:34 am

    Very good! You remind me that I can learn a lot from younger generation – I know I have learned a lot of wisdom but what you have learned to change self destructive thought patterns – you could teach me a lot! Thank you 😊

  6. / 10:54 am

    I voted for your blog!! Hope you do Well!

  7. / 11:50 am

    I’m on a body acceptance journey too. Thanks for sharing encouragement.

    • kayska1
      / 2:21 pm

      That’s great! Thank you 💗

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